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Have you ever caught yourself doing this on a call? I have. I’m with someone, supposed to be all there for them, and my head is still back on whatever I was chewing on before I got on. The strategy, the money, some problem I couldn’t shake. So I’m only kind of there. The more…

Wondering how to actually work with me? Here’s the simplest answer. If you’re operating at a new level, stepping into bigger responsibility, or moving into a new arena, the first step is a connection call. Not a sales call. A real conversation. A chance to meet, hear what you’re carrying, and see if there is…

An opportunity showed up last week. Pretty aligned with me. My purpose, my skill set. Stuff I’ve actually trained to do. And almost in the same breath, this voice in the back of my head went, “who are you to do that?” Dude. 26 years of leading. Training as a coach. And that voice still…

When the old arena goes away, it can feel like your purpose went with it. The title is gone. The uniform is gone. The mission, team, structure, and rhythm that helped make sense of who you were, all of that changes. For me, that old arena was the Navy. That was the container where a…

For a while, I was equating purpose with income. If this is my purpose, then this must be where the money comes from. I did not realize how much weight I was putting on that one equation. Because once those two things get fused together, the mission can start to feel like something you have…

Yesterday I was journaling about a process I went through five and a half years ago. The same process I now help leaders go through in my coaching practice. I was not trying to create content. I was trying to understand why I am still so passionate about it. When I hired my Blueprint coach,…

If you’re using this Friday to look at next week, this might be worth trying. Open your calendar and look two weeks out. Flag the things you already feel yourself resisting. Not to delete them right away. Just to notice them. Highlight them. Change the color. Circle them if you’re looking at a printed calendar.…

When things get uncertain around you, it helps to know what is steady inside you. Not in some abstract way. I mean, actually knowing the inventory. The things you’re good at. The work that gives you energy. The values that keep showing up. The parts of your purpose that keep pulling on you. When the…

I finally got to reconnect with my friend Maurice Philogene on his Try Life On podcast. What made this one fun for me is that Maurice and I have a lot of resonance around the same idea, we just come at it from slightly different angles. At one point in my Navy career, my answer…

I realized something in a coaching session a while back. Not one I was running. One I was in. The realization was this. Earning income and expressing purpose are two separate things. I’d been treating them like the same thing. When you build a business around what you believe your purpose is, it’s easy to…

Two roles on the table. One pays $125K. Big title. Big responsibility. The other pays $75K. Smaller on paper. I asked him which one he’d take if both came through. No hesitation. The $75K. In a heartbeat. Not because he doesn’t want more money. Because the mission of that organization lines up with his purpose.…

I looked up one day and realized I should have more clarity than this. Four years at the Academy. 22 years active duty. Commanded a squadron. By any measure, a successful career. And yet I woke up in this new chapter asking myself, Why don’t I know exactly what to do every day? That’s what…