Life coach

Yesterday I was journaling about a process I went through five and a half years ago. The same process I now help leaders go through in my coaching practice. I was not trying to create content. I was trying to understand why I am still so passionate about it. When I hired my Blueprint coach,…

If you’re using this Friday to look at next week, this might be worth trying. Open your calendar and look two weeks out. Flag the things you already feel yourself resisting. Not to delete them right away. Just to notice them. Highlight them. Change the color. Circle them if you’re looking at a printed calendar.…

I finally got to reconnect with my friend Maurice Philogene on his Try Life On podcast. What made this one fun for me is that Maurice and I have a lot of resonance around the same idea, we just come at it from slightly different angles. At one point in my Navy career, my answer…

Most people think the transition starts with a job search. I don’t think that’s the hardest part. The harder part is figuring out what matters to you before life starts feeling urgent. Because once it does, reflection gets crowded out fast. You start doing. Sending resumes. Chasing interviews. Taking calls. Trying to create momentum. And…

Two roles on the table. One pays $125K. Big title. Big responsibility. The other pays $75K. Smaller on paper. I asked him which one he’d take if both came through. No hesitation. The $75K. In a heartbeat. Not because he doesn’t want more money. Because the mission of that organization lines up with his purpose.…

“𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻.” That line from Tom in this LRR Chat really stuck with me. When leaders start operating at a new level (e.g. a new role, a new organization, or a completely new arena), the instinct is to build the perfect plan. But over time many of us realize something…

I looked up one day and realized I should have more clarity than this. Four years at the Academy. 22 years active duty. Commanded a squadron. By any measure, a successful career. And yet I woke up in this new chapter asking myself, Why don’t I know exactly what to do every day? That’s what…

One shift many leaders notice as responsibility grows is how quickly their calendar fills. What’s less obvious is how easy it becomes to stop questioning it. Here’s a simple exercise I’ve used with leaders navigating that transition. Look at your calendar for the next two weeks. Don’t change anything. Just notice how each commitment makes…

There was a calm that surprised me last weekend. I spent a couple hours shoveling snow. Cold air. Heavy shovel. No headphones. No agenda. Just the same motion, over and over. Scoop. Toss. Step forward. Repeat. Physically demanding. Mentally quiet. There was something grounding about watching the path slowly clear in front of me. One…

You know that feeling when small things start to feel heavier than they should? You get frustrated by things that normally wouldn’t frustrate you. Little decisions take more energy than they should. For me, that’s usually the tell. Not that the team is the problem. But that I don’t actually know the best next step…

There’s a kind of uncertainty that feels familiar to me. I spent 22 years flying helicopters in the Navy. One of the biggest shifts wasn’t learning the controls. It was learning to fly when it wasn’t clear. Instrument flying is what you trust when your body is telling you one thing and reality is telling…

There’s a pattern I keep running into. A lot of the paths we’re on weren’t really chosen. They were inherited. Encouraged. Rewarded. Modeled. And for a long time, they work. You’re productive. Capable. Even successful. Until there’s a quiet moment where something feels…off. Not wrong. Just unexamined. This clip captures how I’ve been thinking about…